Anything is Possible: Healing is Possible
Many sexual abuse survivors feel hopeless, lost, confused and angry. These feelings often intensify overtime if they are not dealt with appropriately. Finding a counselor, psychologist or coach who specializes in trauma is a key component on your path towards success. With the right help, healing is possible. Hope can be restored. As shown in Deuteronomy 30:3-6, God is a God of restoration:
God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he’ll have compassion on you; he’ll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered. No matter how far away you end up, God, your God, will get you out of there and bring you back to the land your ancestors once possessed. It will be yours again. He will give you a good life and make you more numerous than your ancestors. God, your God, will cut away the thick calluses on your heart and your children’s hearts, freeing you to love God, your God, with your whole heart and soul and live, really live.
As you begin to travel down this path of healing and restoration, the New York City Task Force Against Sexual Assault, created a checklist for survivors to monitor their progress as they move towards recovery:
- I acknowledge that something terrible happened to me.
- I am beginning to deal with my feelings about the assault.
- I am angry about what was done to me but recognize that my anger is not a constant part of my feelings. It intrudes into other parts of my life in a negative way.
- I can talk about the assault experience with a counselor or a therapist.
- I am beginning to understand my feelings about the assault.
- I can give responsibility for the assault to the person who attacked me. The responsibility is not mine to accept.
- I could not have prevented the assault, and I recognize that I did the best I could to get through it.
- I am developing a sense of my own self-value and am increasing my self-esteem.
- I am comfortable with choices I make for myself.
- I am developing a sense of being at ease with the subject of my assault.
- I recognize that I have a choice about whether or not to forgive my assailant(s).
- I recognize that I have begun to get back control in my life, that the assailant does not have power over me.
- I recognize that I have the right to regain control.
For all who have experienced abuse, my encouragement for you is to take note of all the ways you are being restored and renewed. Our minds naturally gravitate towards what is not changing. We must make the intentional effort to look at what is happening, so that we can truly begin to see God’s restorative power at work. Anything is possible with God, including healing.